The 10 mistakes that psychologists do when working with gay or lesbian clients
When working with gay or lesbian clients can often run into common errors, which even you realize. I refer to physicians, psychologists and psychotherapists to whom they are gay or lesbian people for psychotherapy or a simple consultation.
Taking a cue from an article by my colleague Dr. Kort here are the 10 most common mistakes that you may come across, more common in heterosexual or simply lack of professional training on LGBT issues.
- If asked not to reveal their sexual orientation.
- Homophobia or heterosexism deny their
- Ignoring local resources for gay and lesbian
- Using incorrect terminology
- Ignore information about the phases of coming out
- Misunderstanding marriages with different sexual orientations
- Being a white screen
- Neglecting an adult * * * was a homosexual is a homosexual child *
- Leave the waiting room of his private journals LG
- Believing that "a couple is a pair."
I will add that I think is an underlying positive bias, but may damage the therapeutic relationship:
To think that as a psychotherapist is able to tackle any problem and any customer and therefore does not need ad hoc training.
What do you think? What kind of experience you had with psychologists / psychotherapists?
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This post has 17 comments
October 1st, 2010
I carry the negative experience of a family therapist at the counseling center Ostuni (Brindisi) popular in the mid 90's for a few sessions. I was fine with her, I went more than willingly, and already in a few sessions I felt much mieglio, and changed. having trouble accepting my homosexuality, attending became more peaceful toward my omosess. She interrupted the psychotherapeutic relationship for the following reasons, and since then I carry engraved in my mind: "for reasons of transference and countertransference of the therapist to recommend a male ". and with this absurd reason I sat her down outside the studio. this pretty professional and perversions of the mind called Catholic Palmisano (named enza if I remember correctly)
September 12th, 2011
Your therapist probably fell in love with you and he could not handle the tension of love to you. But you do this you know? Or have you projected into your fears and prejudices?
September 21st, 2011
oh no, I thought the same on his balls and put me badly because I stand at the door. now you offer me another key to understanding this .. I do not know what to think. both the real reason is known only to her, refused to explain it to me (I said that was not required to give me further explanation beyond that already given, that phrase that just skinny I was impressed on the memory. OTHERWISE, A BAD EXPERIENCE FOR ME
May 26th, 2010
I've always been lucky, my heterosexual therapist addressed the issue in a more natural and can not even focus too much on the subject.
No attempt to exorcise ..:)
May 25th, 2010
Dearest Paula, I think that many psychologists and psychotherapists suffer from sexual problems themselves so that they serve an introspection to withdraw their internalized homophobia (often remained unconscious state). Need a study on its pansexual be able to put on equal footing with the client and in full understanding with it.
Then ... it is society that must change and not the person in this case homosexual.
Peter Boom - http://www.pansexuality.it
May 25th, 2010
because you want to become a cognitivist? Why is the Coca-Cola Zero psychotherapy.
September 21st, 2011
SAY, IS BEAUTIFUL DEFINITION? What does that mean?
May 25th, 2010
Good news (well sometimes they do) at least for me: I served a brief psychotherapy (not more than two years) with a highly trained therapist on the issues of gay and lesbian world. It's called Ivano Lanzini and I can quote without fear. His works are also published on the web address I do not understand (cognitive, analytical, etc..) And I admit my ignorance and even this particular can be found on the Internet. The fact that this operator has never pulled out of things like those listed above, and no one has ever tried in any way. His approach is very similar to the interview which would help implement a councelor, with questions aimed at achieving a response on the part of / the patient. The most proper treatment is the final session, during which the therapist has always carried a positive alternative to solve the knots that still persist in my psyche. I owe him a lot. If today is a lesbian and a contented daughter and sister in peace with troubled families that have made life hell for a girl of unpreparedness in the "game" often perverse life, I owe it to him. Being his client gave me and he's giving what he called "the heart serene patience and perseverance that sense of well being that helps so much." Seeing is believing.
May 23rd, 2011
Hello Lydia, I wanted to ask info about your psychotherapeutic process. I can not seem to accept and / or to live peacefully with myself my homosexuality (and by that I mean: not that I intend to come out and flaunt it, but I just want to feel good about myself)! Currently just today-despite having started with a wretched psicologa/psicoterapeuta- I think I will stay at maximum capacity and above all for ever! Obviously it is too early to draw conclusions already? How did your path? Time and change? You were in my situation? Thank you! Aspect of your answers
May 26th, 2011
Hello Daniel, I gladly tell you that I have 46 years and my awareness, after a lifetime of repression, took place in 42 years. For me the discovery was a kind of liberation and, far from having lived in a negative way, I pulled some money, going back in my life, with hindsight I am able to reconstruct a past of discrimination directed at my person who started very early. And 'as if my psyche had been addicted exclusion (left-handed, instinctive, merry, tomboy, etc..), And poor childhood accomplice of love family, I have done nothing but push back into the subconscious a series of negative events until the day it all came again into the open. Although we have always known to be a lesbian, I've hidden the biggest cause of pain and, perhaps, the fact that they had an awareness of late compared to many gays and lesbians a lot, saved me from a slice of homophobia internalized. The power to accept and live peacefully on my sexual orientation is so kind to me in a moment when I had already overcome the biggest pain, so I found the strength, thanks to the guidance of Dr. Lanzini, to plead with all the people who are nearby. In doing so I realized that in order to feel good about myself, I had to be authentic - which until then was not - and to do so, I must be honest and clear above all by myself. Once the people around me have felt my serenity, every problem is gone and it allowed me to become a civil rights activist and fight every day for LGBT people, in my small way. This is, in short, my path. I understand when you say that you believe to be unhappy at the maximum power and forever. Attitude understandable in a society, like the Italian one, full of homo-negativity (Lingiardi). I can not say that it was in your same situation, but the world is full of people in your same situation and what not to thy as to their authenticity. If we are true / us us, even the people around you start to get a little 'more respect for our dignity, which must be closely linked to our personal identity.
May 25th, 2010
The last time I went to a psychologist who had even the bible in the studio .. and not a copy, but two! In fact, he tried to convince me of my eterosseussualità intrinsic and natural.
From what we are gone.
May 25th, 2010
for 10 years, my therapist has denied my homosexuality, but at the same time urged me not to attend the women who appealed to me and jump into any bed populated by a man.
To continue my education I had to finish the analysis and do it myself.
Who said it to him now that I am a lesbian happy?
May 25th, 2010
I can bring a positive experience with my psychiatrist ... I was never made to feel uncomfortable with the terminology used or nor with the attitude that takes place during the sessions ... which is what it always should be, but feeling a lot of experience divergent, I'm thinking that I was lucky ...
May 25th, 2010
The basic problem is to assume that everyone is heterosexual and that meet certain models. A problem which not only psychologists and psychotherapists, I have met with a doctor of the Office of hygiene was assumed that I was a heterosexual woman of childbearing age and therefore at risk of rubella, with some little men who thought straight I was looking for the usual single-sex, heterosexual and omit others thought that asking me to become their wife was the most we can aspire, shocked colleagues with the idea that I had not wanted to get a boyfriend.
The problem is heterosexist society, which then permeates all areas.
May 25th, 2010
Hello,
I am in therapy from a therapist heterosexual, to which I have not had any trouble to ask for sua'opinione 'on the homosexual patient.
I am fine with him to address issues of my life, I never felt judged, or how much conditioning could make me feel different as a homosexual.
I think that everything, as always, depends on the professionalism of the therapist .. but this problem exists in the context of homosexuality and other .. As always it is a matter of trust.
May 25th, 2010
I am a graduate student in psychology. I was in analysis for two different therapists, in two different periods of my life. The first (I asked for help 17 years) was a heterosexual therapist and it helped me so much to accept me and solve problems with my family. It opened my mind. More recently, I turned to a therapist with her lesbian and of course there were problems, although the reason why I went to her had nothing to do with being gay or nulal less. In short, to do it well, I found myself with psychologists well!
May 22nd, 2010
I am a psychologist and prisoterapeuta in training.
1. even if a child has nothing to do enamored of nearby
2. my orientation is not important, does not affect my life
3. although always fantasized about my sex, not about me
4. (This is the best) but the orientation is only an unresolved Oedipus
5. Since your mother has lost her father, your homosexuality stems from his desire to find her father.
I swear they are not invented, I changed 3 therapists for personal reasons and then I stopped because I could not find someone whose neurons come into contact. I see they had nothing to do with my orientation, I'm fine with myself and I have no problems about it now, and certainly NOT due to treatment. These therapists were all in Lombardy, to analytically oriented, systematic, analytical. Now I specialize in cognitive ... who knows why.
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